Questions for the things you keep doing.
Some of what you do today was decided a long time ago, by someone much smaller, for reasons that made sense then. These questions look for those reasons. Take one at a time. They are not questions to answer well. They are questions to answer truthfully.
How to use them
- Pick one. Not the best one. The one that made you pause.
- Say it out loud for two minutes, or write until you run out.
- Give it a rough time: an age, a house, a season. Guessing is fine.
- Leave it there. Come back tomorrow for another.
What you keep doing
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Answer it
What do you keep doing even though it hurts you? What might it be protecting you from?
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What are you avoiding right now, and what story do you tell yourself about why?
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When your mind wanders, where does it go most often? What is it looking for?
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What would your ten-years-younger self think of your life today? What would your ten-years-older self say?
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If your current life were a chapter, what would the honest you call it?
The people in it
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Who taught you what love looks like? What did that lesson cost you?
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What pattern keeps repeating in your closest relationships?
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Who are you when conflict starts: fighter, peacemaker, or ghost? Where does that come from?
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What do you need from people that you find hardest to ask for?
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Who do you miss that you never talk about?
The older layer
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Describe a moment you felt truly unsafe as a child. What did you decide about the world that day?
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What criticism cuts you the deepest? When did you first hear it?
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What do you do when you feel rejected? Where did you learn that move?
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What is something you have never told anyone? Write it here, just for you.
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When do you feel most like a child again: small, powerless, or unseen?
This is reflection, not therapy. If a question brings up more than you want to hold alone, leave it, or talk to someone you trust.
Read the longer version.
Every answer lands in its place.
Say it, and Lapriland writes it down in your words and puts it on the line of your life, whether it happened today or when you were about nine.