Guides
Keeping a life, in practice.
Short, plain guides for the things people actually look up: where a pattern began, how to remember a childhood you can’t date, how to begin a life story with no first page.
It didn’t start on Tuesday
Why you sound like your mother when you’re angry
The voice that comes out of you when a cup goes over is older than you are. Where it came from, and what loosens it.
“I was about nine” is enough
How to journal about a childhood you can’t date
You remember the kitchen but not the year. Five ways to place a memory without a date, and the questions that open the door.
Your patterns have birthdays
How to find where a pattern began
A reaction bigger than the moment has an earlier moment underneath it. Four steps to follow the feeling back.
For people who never kept one up
Voice journaling: keep a journal by talking
If the page stops you, the page may be the wrong door. How to keep a journal out loud, starting with two minutes.
Speak the way you do at home
Keeping a journal in two languages
Some memories only live in the language they happened in. How to keep them there.
No first page needed
How to write your life story, one scene at a time
Don’t start at the beginning. Twelve scenes hold a life, and you can tell them in any order.
Or start with one question.
Childhood and family
The house, the kitchen, the rule nobody said out loud.
Patterns
Why do I do that? Questions that look for where it began.
Your life story
Twelve scenes, from your earliest memory to the thread through it all.
Who you are
What you chose, what you inherited, and what you are becoming.
Music and memory
The song that takes you somewhere the moment it starts.
A programme of 21 days
One question a day for three weeks, about the house you grew up in.